At a time when our country is experiencing political tension, racial injustices, and a public health crisis – the last thing we need is further division. Unfortunately, much of the division happening is among family and friends.
Now is the time when families and friends need each other most. Our communities, states, and countries are better off when we’re united, not divided, no matter our differences. Now, I’m not saying we should let racial injustices go on or let people spew hatred toward one another. I’m saying the hatred that’s being spewed within families is detrimental. Two family members with differing opinions on the same situation is not an immediate reason to write each other off. In fact, it’s an opportunity to have a discussion. To have an open dialogue, ask each other questions and challenge one another.
We don’t all think alike. And we shouldn’t want to. Otherwise, we’d never be challenged to see a situation differently or gain new perspective. No matter our age, experience, values or beliefs – we need to give each other space to think differently.
However, I must say, with the recent racial injustices that have happened in our country – when someone sees a situation differently than you, that does not mean they inherently disagree with you. I may have a different perspective, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t on the same side.
In fact, I’m very proud of our younger generations. They’re taking a stand and trying to end racial injustice. It’s powerful. However, I do believe it’s important to challenge these young people to find solutions at a time like this. Protesting alone doesn’t always bring about the change people wish to see. Once the protesting dies off – what comes next? What actions can be taken? It’s important to keep that momentum going in the direction of actual solutions.
Some of this may sound familiar to you. Maybe you have a child, niece or nephew, relative, or friend who has been fired up over recent events. You understand their position. You agree with the message. But perhaps you don’t agree with the actions they’re taking to bring about social change. You believe there’s another way to make an impact. How do you discuss this with your family member or friend without it turning into an argument?
Much of the time, young people can be quick to speak but slow to listen. And that’s alright. Don’t give up on communication with this person in your life – challenge them to have an open discussion with you. Ask him or her questions. But above all else, listen. Keep an open mind and an open heart. Remind those in your life that even though you may have a different opinion from them, you can still be united in something. There’s power in that.
How do we help young people cope during these challenging times? How do we move forward? I believe it’s through education – and not necessarily academia. If we can educate young people on how to be decent human beings, how to keep marriages together, how to raise children to have respect for mankind– we’ll see the change people wish to see now. After all, the most important work we’ll ever do is within the walls of our own homes.
If we continue this division, our country will collapse. We need our families to be strong. We need our communities to be strong. Our schools have to be strong. We can’t fight our teachers and we can’t fight our police. We have to work together. Democrats and Republicans have to work together. We need to support our senior citizens and those living in poverty. We also need to support local businesses and the job creators. Let’s stop fighting each other. Let’s come together, despite our differences, and take care of our communities and the families who live in them.
If you’re experiencing familial tension due to the current political climate and social issues – you’re far from alone. Be patient and don’t give up on one another. And remember, you’re stronger together.